| The following is a prime example of why I am not returning to work in the bar and restaurant business.I disliked Junior High while I was in it, and have no desire to relive it in my adult life.?I have not ever in 15 years in the restaurant/bar industry, worked at a place that was as bad as Quincy?s in terms of how the customers treated and spoke to the employees, and to each other, and the other patrons.At any other bar, these people would have been tossed out on their ears, at Quincy?s they have a safe haven, Yiannis would never correct a patron for being abusive to his staff or each other, and he has lost a lot of decent customers because of that.I knew when I left that if I did not return there would be a lot of indignities on Yiannis part; in his view I owe him because he contributed to my wedding and baby shower, which were held there.I fully appreciate everything that was done for us by him, and everyone else involved- but I don?t feel some overhanging cloud of obligation because of it.We were happy to go get married quietly in City hall, there would have been a lot less drama- but got married at Quincy?s at other people?s insistence, so they could be there.The Ceremony was a complete joke- my brother?s officiant at ciity hall was better than the Quincy?s regular who mangled our hand written ceremony.I appreciate his effort, but frankly, I was devastated, and the entire wedding came off as kind of a joke- I can?t wait to get married again somewhere nice to eradicate the spector of this comedy of errors from my mind.The only professional part of the wedding was the decoration and flowers, thanks to Valri, who is a party planner extraordinaire.So, to Yiannis, if you think I owe you for the wedding- how about you send me the bill for what you spent- probably about $200 - and I will send you the bill for 4 years worth of overtime pay that you screwed me out of by fixing the books, and 4 years of time worked off the clock.We will see who owes who.I put in my time- gladly for the most part- I had my days when I was tired and burnt out, and did not want to be there- I think everybody goes through that.?The other thing I forgot about was all the gossip and shit talking that goes on there,?I disliked that profusely while I was there, and always tried to stay uninvolved, I should have stayed out of it this time too, but I was really upset that there would be so much shit talking going on there, about my family, when we are no longer there, and there is no one to defend us.I know better- we are better than that!I need to practice letting things roll off my back!!?So to you miss Vanesssa, as the ringleader of the majority of the drama and shit-talking that goes on there, I say, stay on your meds, you are much more psychotic when you are not on them, and I don?t think Quincy?s can afford to have you drive through any more windows/walls, or scare off any more customers- though I hear the regs really enjoy that kind of abuse.?Thanks so much for the personal attack- people who live in glass houses should not throw stones you know.Good luck- keep our names outta your mouth, let us live our lives as far away from all of you as possible- thanks!!(Bartender of the year my ass- what drink did you make for that again?) Not wanting to work in close proximity with you was a huge factor in my choice not to return to Quincy?s, I have no desire to have people like you in my life, even at work.I am sure that makes you happy, I knew you wanted my position and were spreading rumors to Yiannis before I even left- Thank you so much, you did me a huge favor!!Now I can finish my education, care for my daughter full-time, and get a job that is rewarding, fulfilling, healthy, and pays decent, working with other functional adults.I appreciate the opportunity!I appreciate my husband working hard so I CAN stay home and care for our daughter, and continue my education.You are a gem, I adore you, thank you!!The following communication reads from the bottom up.?
The pool table took a lot of work but I have definetly proved myself over the past 2 years so ots getting better with us.I know what your saying about how Yianni treats people, but what people need to understand is he is not your friend he is your boss and as long as you do your job and do it well then there shouldnt be a reason for him to "turn" on you.Its not about likeing him or trusting him its work.You do your job, make the money and go home.I dont get caught up in the drama, i have enough of my own personal.I have been a bartender for almost 10 years and thats the one thing I?ve learned.You can make a few friends but they are still customers, dont get personal and you wont get burned.I dont ask or expect anything from anybody especially Yianni but I do have to say, as long as I have been there he treats me great, no complaints...yet, and if there ever was I have no problem with moving on.That job can be replaced just as easy as I can.Welcome to the world of Bartending.Well it seems we have came to an understanding so I will leave it at that Dom.Thanks for chating, hope everything works out for you.----------------- Original Message -----------------From: MunchieDate: Apr 5, 2008 1:49 PM
You misheard my statement- I said the Blvd offered for us to have the wedding there- not that I ever intended on working there.I have not had anything to do with any previous posting on the internet- like I said- I wanted to be left out of it- I have no personal beef with Yiannis, and never ever intended on using him- I had been there for 4 years, and intended to stay.As to the wedding- we had an appointment at city hall, that I canceled at Yiannis and everyone elses insistence that we have a wedding ceremony there, cobbled together in two weeks time.Had I intended or planned a wedding there, it would have been very different.I am deeply sorry if Yiannis feels I used him, that was not ever in my mind.I gave him my all when I worked there, and only stopped because of the baby.I have seen some disturbing things with Yiannis and how he turns on people in the years I have worked there- I really like the guy, but please, you be careful, I know it is hard to believe until it happens.As to my not coming back- I have tried on several occaisions to come talk to Yiannis about my decision and why, and he has avoided me every time.How did you get him to put a pool table in there?----------------- Original Message -----------------From: Miss VanessaDate: Apr 5, 2008 1:38 PM
well it seems you are much more calm, I dint take the attack that personal but I have been hearing this drama around the bar and i just want you to know not that you care but Yianni is very upset.If you believed he had givin a bad reccomendation , which is against the law, than you should have been adult enough to come to him and not post bulletins all over the internet.I dont know if he is lying when he says that he never did such thing.He claims he only got one call on a job and when they asked why Jon no longer worked for him he stated that is was only because of his injury and not being able to work so he HAD to be replaced.We all know what a good asset John was but Jim is definetly more responsible.I do completly understand the need to defend your family I just wish that the whole situation could have delt with a bit different.But lets face it, you planned on getting Yianni to help with the wedding knowing you were gonna possibly leave to the BLVD. you said it your self.You yourself also stated on more than one occassion that you did not like working for Quincy?s or Yianni.If you had no respect for him why let him go through the trouble of contributing to your wedding?Thats pretty messed up.You used him and I guess you have your reasons, maybe you felt like he owed you?I dont know.I just think its a good idea that this whole the internet things comes to an end.It is quite apparent how both parties feel so lets jus drop it.I also know we all have better things to do that could be more productive.Like i said me and the bar all wish you and your family the best.Again thanks for the apology and much nicer reply o and the compliment on the improvements to the bar.----------------- Original Message -----------------From: MunchieDate: Apr 5, 2008 1:19 PM
Hey Vanessa, I went through a lot of mental anguish knowing that this situation (John?s injury)could have been avoided "if only" ...I have had to be content with the changes he has made since then, and that he is a very different person now, and is committed to his family.He has a really good job now, and I have been going to the JC full-time online, so I can be home with my daughter and get a carreer that is better for us in the future.My frustration is based on the facts that John looked for a job every day for six months, and was unable to secure one, and a few of the jobs reported back to him that Yiannis was giving him a bad reference.I understand that he and Yiannis had their differences, but I didn?t think John did a bad job or merited a bad refrence- it was kind of a personal blow to me- as this greatly affects my family... do you understand that?I had always considered Yiannis and everyone there personal friends, and I was really quite hurt by all of this.As to the shit talking- this was a direct response to personal attacks that I had heard about from someone I had considered a good friend- again, I was really hurt, and affronted that the person would not come to me first and talk about it, but instead had to run around bad-mouthing my husband.You of all people should understand the fierce desire to defend your loved ones/ significant other no matter what...I know you do....I always intended on returning to Quincy?s after having this baby, I was offered a job at the BLVD, yes, but if I was to leave the Q for another bar, I would at least choose one that makes a LOT more money... that was a financial consideration alone, never an intention to "fuck Yiannis".After having a baby, my life view changed drastically, I realized that I did not want to work in a bar anymore, I needed stable hours, and stable pay, so I decided to go back to school, to become a Registered Vet Tech- a longtime dream.I also realized that I did not want to leave my baby when she was so little, and I could not afford child care- even if I was working- so I chose to stay home with her for a while.I fully appreciated everything Yiannis and everyone else there contributed to my wedding, baby shower, and daily life- I expressed my thanks verbally profusely and often, I had fully intended to send out thank you cards to everyone involved, but I was caught up in the drama of my husband?s injury, drastically reduced income, being pregnant and an emotional basketcase, having a baby, and all that that intails...I had bought thank you cards, just never mananged to get to them.This was completely my oversight, I apologize- I never meant to come across as ingrateful.Please dont think that I am unappreciative, or even holding a grudge... this really was a defensive vitriolic response, popped offa the top of my head, I was fuming mad, and needed to let it out.(Something you should understand, again.)Unless you are running around talking shit about us, which I doubt, I am pretty sure you have better things to do, this was not directed at you, or indeed at most of the people there, just a select few individuals who felt the need to run off at the mouth.I apologize if I have offended you or any other innocent party- but again- I was deeply hurt and offended by the above mentioned percieved affronts, and I needed to respond.Not that you care, but I stayed out of this completely until now.So, thank you for your input, I wish you all the best- the changes at Quincy?s look great, I am sure you had a big hand in them- good job!!Hope you are well, Dominique----------------- Original Message -----------------From: Miss VanessaDate: Apr 4, 2008 2:20 AM
wow, maybe if you both spent as much time into looking for a job as you do on the internet than maybe you?d be able to get one.Hey Dom why dont you think about how an how your husband got hurt to begin with, maybe if he was at home taking care of his family instead of drinking and acting out in Cotati he would still have had a job.Maybe think about why he still doesnt, only one person called on a reference, ONE!Did he not apply anywhere else.People do whatever they have to do to fend for their family, not blame everybody but themselves.You act as if there was such a huge lunch crowd when he was there, not much has changed.What about the fact that not one person ever got a thank you for all they contributed to your wedding and your gifts!YOUR WELCOME!You both planned on fucking Yianni over and leave to the BLVD. anyway so why do you care?Nobody in the bar would ever wish you and your family the worst so grow the fuck up and take responsibilty for your actions and your family even if you have to flip burgers, do it!Your family wouldnt have to starve if you tried harder.Both of your lives have been unstable long befor you quit Quincy?s and all I?ve ever heard you do is blame everyone else...Yianni, Johns ex wife and god knows who else...GROW UP and move on!You should have better things to do than be so mad and trash people on the internet!Maybe work on your resume!?I?m not defending Yianni but this shit is old, its been over a year, get over it, nobody feels sorry for you they feel sorry for your child, its really to bad she will be brought up to blame and not take responsibility for her actions, one could only pray she doesnt.We all wish her all the health and happiness in the world. |
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